My Aspergic Tendencies
October 2nd 2007 04:51
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People annoy me. Especially those who waste words and time on social inanities. I have Aspergic tendencies (I'm socially awkward, clumsy, has a certain disregard for social convention and can be very literal) and could happily spend the rest of my life alone. Animals bring out the softer, patient side in me because there is meaning behind everything they do - unlike humans who waste time talking about the weather or asking dumb, meaningless questions such as 'How are you?' I call these questions dumb and meaningless as people asking such questions only want one answer: 'Good, thanks'. So why ask the question in the first place? And what if you're not having a good day?
One of my friends has the same problem. He is 6ft 4 and often gets asked, 'What's it like to be so tall?' It drives him nuts and he will often answer with ,'I don't know. What's it like to be so short?'
So I am not good at small talk (neither is my friend, for that matter). For years I thought there was something wrong with me until I consulted a therapist and he simply said I wanted to be left alone. That explains my social ineptness and my lack of interest in meeting people. Even at parties I prefer to be on my own or to talk to those who I already know. At clubs I dance on my own. I avoid people as much as possible. Even at work, I choose to work in a field which is extremely autonomous - I could go for days without needing to speak to a colleague.
When I do meet new people (usually friends of friends) I give them the 2 minute test: if they bore or annoy me within that time period I simply go quiet and find some way to withdraw from the conversation. And I never speak to them again.
Another friend, who is very social, says I don't give people a chance by giving them such a short time frame to 'prove' themselves. But my take on this is that if you don't like someone, why would you want to waste any more time talking to them when you could be doing something more worthwhile?
People might think I am missing out of life, but how can I miss something I don't like?
One of my friends has the same problem. He is 6ft 4 and often gets asked, 'What's it like to be so tall?' It drives him nuts and he will often answer with ,'I don't know. What's it like to be so short?'
So I am not good at small talk (neither is my friend, for that matter). For years I thought there was something wrong with me until I consulted a therapist and he simply said I wanted to be left alone. That explains my social ineptness and my lack of interest in meeting people. Even at parties I prefer to be on my own or to talk to those who I already know. At clubs I dance on my own. I avoid people as much as possible. Even at work, I choose to work in a field which is extremely autonomous - I could go for days without needing to speak to a colleague.
When I do meet new people (usually friends of friends) I give them the 2 minute test: if they bore or annoy me within that time period I simply go quiet and find some way to withdraw from the conversation. And I never speak to them again.
Another friend, who is very social, says I don't give people a chance by giving them such a short time frame to 'prove' themselves. But my take on this is that if you don't like someone, why would you want to waste any more time talking to them when you could be doing something more worthwhile?
People might think I am missing out of life, but how can I miss something I don't like?
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Big Cat, your comment about being offended is a choice is interesting as an ex-boss used to always say that to me. However, a friend told me she thought that being offended was an instantaneous reaction: it's like trying new foods; you either like it or you don't.