Babies!
January 26th 2007 03:00
Life is all about experiences and feelings right? Here’s a thought for all you educated 30 something women out there. Of course Im writing this because I am one of them! …Maybe our intellect and society are out of sync with our biology. Could you ever consider that that real urge to have a baby is only short term and that with time, this urge will lessen and eventually pass. Things will get better! Don’t get me wrong…I love this baby and would love to have one of my own This is not to say that one will no longer physically be able to have a baby. Just the novelty of the first feeling of this biological desire lessens and therefore becomes less strong. How many women of this age feel this ‘baby’ urge and pick the first guy that crosses their path to have a baby with? Then 10 years down the track, or even 5 the joys of having a new born are gone and one looks at this person they choose to have a baby with and think… we have nothing in common. I don’t want to spend the rest of my life with this man.
Another thought…Have you ever thought that maybe 80% of life experiences come from matters outside of having babies or a husband and family. That if you don’t push through this initial ‘pop a baby out’ urge, it will be a lot harder (due to the time pressures of having a family) to explore that 80% of other experiences that are to be had in life. Or…shock horror….maybe you do pass that time of physically being able to have a child. Is this all that bad? Maybe you could adopt. Once again, could you possibly think that, having childbirth and being pregnant is only 20% of the experiences to be had with having a baby and that maybe in rearing say an adopted child you will still be able to experience 80% of the experiences to be had with raising and looking after another human being!! Whilst also giving a positive opportunity to a person (adopted child) that they would never have had.
Another thought…Have you ever thought that maybe 80% of life experiences come from matters outside of having babies or a husband and family. That if you don’t push through this initial ‘pop a baby out’ urge, it will be a lot harder (due to the time pressures of having a family) to explore that 80% of other experiences that are to be had in life. Or…shock horror….maybe you do pass that time of physically being able to have a child. Is this all that bad? Maybe you could adopt. Once again, could you possibly think that, having childbirth and being pregnant is only 20% of the experiences to be had with having a baby and that maybe in rearing say an adopted child you will still be able to experience 80% of the experiences to be had with raising and looking after another human being!! Whilst also giving a positive opportunity to a person (adopted child) that they would never have had.
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Comment by Lily
Ars Poetica
writing from a mother's perspective... the husband family and babies IS the 80% for a while... but i'm not keen on weighing up by percentage...curious; where did you get the percentage from?
I liked how you exposed the women with the baby yearn.. how they find the 1st bloke to fulfill it... wrong!!
~Lily
Comment by Ahmed
Video Gamer Kids
Little Green Foosballs
PolyKicks
You might miss out on 80% of your life if you have a baby early, but you'll miss out on the 100% joy of raising one if you wait too long, after which it turns into a burden for you.
Adoption is cool, but I don'tknow how it is supposed to work exactly and I'm too young to decide if I could love him/her as much as my own (though I'd like to think I could </self reightous comment>